Moving into Marriage

Playing HAPPY FAMILIES
Have patience with each other’s families. However, remember to stick up for yourself and each other if necessary.

DAY ONE of Married Life
Weddings are family events as well as a couple’s 'Big Day'. There will be the inevitable disagreements about the wedding arrangements just remember the context. Always check out with each other 'Is this argument worth it?'

YOU'RE SPECIAL because.....
What is it that made your fiancé/ fiancée the 'ONE.' Take time out to talk about those special qualities & moments and keep making more.

Dream about your future together
Explore your dreams for the future. What do you want from your life a year from now, in five years, in ten?

Money can feel TOO TIGHT TO MENTION
Getting married is expensive. Stress is difficult to avoid when one of you is more anxious about spending money than the other. Negotiating and creating a workable plan about how you will manage your money can help avoid many arguments.

MARRIAGE: an opportunity to do it YOUR WAY
Talk to each other about your family backgrounds, about what you liked and what you hated. TREASURE the elements that you LOVE, DUMP any unhappy patterns of behaviour. Work out together how you'd like your NEW family as a married couple to be.

Can MARRIAGE make a difference?
If you have been living together what if anything will be different?
Ask yourselves: When I am married I will be…When you are married you will be…When we are married we will be…
What do these answers mean for you both?

Sex will take care of itself
You might recognise the saying: ‘A woman needs to feel loved to make love and a man needs to make love to feel loved.’
Having children, dealing with long working hours, experiencing stress can all affect sexual intimacy. If you keep talking, kissing, hugging, and touching one another, sex will take care of itself.

COPING with CONFLICT.
There are tips on this website to help.

Take time away from wedding chat
If you get the chance, go on a pre-marriage course like FOCCUS.

No matter what, take time out from the wedding plans and talk about you: your HOPES, your FEARS and your DREAMS about your MARRIAGE.

Download these tips.